How to Help A Grieving Loved One

When someone you know and love is grieving, you probably want to support them and help them through this difficult time. But everyone responds to death differently, so it can be difficult to know how to be there for them in the best way. Some people will want to be alone; others want to be around loved ones. Some will want to talk about it; others may want to be distracted from it.

The most important thing is that they know you’re there when they need and in whatever way they need. Here are some tips about how you can help a grieving loved one.

Take care of their responsibilities

Especially if you live with this person, it’s a good idea to take responsibility for the housework, cooking, and grocery shopping as much as you can. This gives them fewer things to worry about so they can focus on their grief and the funeral planning. Even if you don’t live with your loved one, you can stop round with some homemade meals or groceries.

Respect their wishes

You probably want to do as much as possible to help them, but if your loved one asks to be left alone or says they don’t want to talk about it, then you should respect their wishes. Don’t try to force them to open up or do anything else they’re not ready for.

Reach out to them

If you hear that a friend has lost someone close to them, then reach out to them to show that you care. A simple message to say “I’m sorry for your loss” or “thinking of you” can make a difference in showing that they still have people in their life that care for them. Also, let them know that you’re there if you need them.

Actually be there

Don’t just say you’re there for them, but actually be there. If they reach out to you saying they need a friend to talk to or someone to go for a drink with, then be that friend for them. They could be really struggling with the grief, and you never know if you’re the only person they feel comfortable talking to about it.

Everyone grieves differently, so talk to your loved one and try to judge what it is they want and need from you. If you need help supporting your loved one with funeral planning, then contact us at Hayworth Miller to help you handle this process.